Would't be Possible to Give EveryOne Decent Life

The downsides of capitalism, technology development, green energy production, ecovillages, Venus Project. Do you have opinions about the future of our world?

We are now experiencing the downsides of capitalism, we can now see where it lead us. We saw USA bombing countries that didn’t accepted their view of politic, sending troops in Iraq asking support from many countries that signed the NATO treaty years ago. We saw countries destroyed by multinationals, that are just interested in their profits. We exploited for centuries an entire continent, Africa, robbing native peoples of their resources, their lives.  We condemn the system when one component of our family is attacked in the street, or worse, is killed by criminals, but we never blame ourselves for feeding this system. 

While many countries continue to offer a quiet lifestyle, there are other people who are protesting because they finally found a way to get up from a past of slavery, and they are now seeking for a glimmer of hope and a sparkle of justice. In the last decades we saw the establishment of different futuristic movements, looking for a way to give everyone the resources necessary to lead a decent life. We surely are too many on this planet, and we could think that there is not enough food, not enough water or not enough energy for everyone. 

New technologies promised us a new way to obtain energy by not using fossil fuels, not to mention the energy savings from new appliances.
Still, we continue to pursue profits and attain selfish objectives, we only look for our achievement, leaving behind everything else.
We work for about 6/8 hours a day for 6 days, and I think that this leaves us too little time to build a life, but that’s just my opinion. Obviously I’m not saying that we shouldn’t work at all. Work is important, technology development is important, and we couldn’t think to survive without producing. 
But this consumerism is literally destroying what makes us human.

While science is literally revolutionizing the way we look at space, the way we understand and consider life on this and other worlds, we continue to fight between us for trivial reasons.

I actually came across a strange, yet interesting site, about this Venus  Project: http://www.thevenusproject.com/

I was really impressed by the innovative ideas and concept of life they explained in their site, and I must say it is explained really well. But it seems too good, or too distant (in terms of time) to be something to take in serious consideration. What do you think about it?

I knew about ecovillages, villages in which people adopted a vegetarian diet and an essentialist, minimalist lifestyle, without wastes, without using money.
I’m wondering: if we take inspiration from ecovillages and we get ideas from the Venus Project, there would be any chance to give everyone a decent life? 

For a moment, don’t take in consideration the deep-rooted selfishness we live with everyday, nor the conflicts that arise every day because of politics or religion. Let’s talk about resources. Let’s talk about possibilities.

5 Top Relationship Killers and How to Avoid Them

Failed relationships can be devastating. Most people spend months and sometimes years wondering what exactly went wrong and if there is anything they could have done to save the relationship. While not all relationships can be saved, there are some definite relationship killers that all happy couples should avoid like the plague.

Dishonesty

Dishonesty destroys trust within relationships regardless of whether the liar gets caught or not. Like the old adage goes, no one is more suspicious than a liar. Studies show that 80% of all married people within the United States lie about money. It’s no wonder that 50% of these marriages end in divorce. If you want to save your relationship, learn since the beginning of the relationship how to tell the truth.

Controlling Behavior or Jealousy

The fear of losing a partner is the leading cause of jealousy and controlling behavior in relationships. Jealousy manifests itself as anger, blame and judgment and with time, the partner who is being controlled becomes resentful of the controlling partner. This inevitably causes the relationship to come to an end. If you are afraid of losing your partner or having your partner taken away from you, you need to find out where that fear is coming from and deal with it before it destroys your relationship.

Addictions

Nothing ends relationships faster than substance and process addictions. Addictions can be quite diverse including drugs, alcohol, food, shopping, porn, sex and work. People use addictions as a way to deal with the pain in their lives or to fill a void within their lives. The only way to keep addictions from destroying your relationship is to actually deal with the pain and emptiness instead of trying to cover it up.

Needy Behavior

If you believe that your partner is your world, then sooner or later you are going to display needy behavior. Just like the people who suffer from substance addictions, clingy people believe that their partners will fill the void and emptiness within their lives. Needy people expect their partners to make them happy and when that doesn’t happen, they become resentful towards them. In order to avoid being needy and clingy, one must take responsibility for his or her own happiness and quit constantly demanding attention from his or her partner.

Selfishness

Relationships can only last long if the needs of the two individuals within the relationship are being met. This means that if one of the individuals is selfish and is entirely focused on themselves, the relationship will come to an end, sooner or later. Granted, pushing our wants aside for someone else’s sake isn’t always fun but it is a price we have to pay if we want to be in a relationship.

Many of the above mentioned relationship killers are brought about by fear. Such fear and concern most of the time arises from our past relationships. If you want a long lasting relationship, you need to take responsibility for your feelings and needs. If you need to see a therapist or counselor so as to deal with some of the issues from your past, don’t hesitate to do it.

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How to Make Love to a Woman

The mysteries of a woman have long confounded men and no more so than in the bedroom.  What will work one night, may never work again.  Women are usually hard to understand.  God made them complicated for a reason.  We have to work at it to understand them better.  When we work at it we become closer to the person that they are.  The fun of being in love is trying to understand your mate better.  We need to find new and exciting ways to please them in bed.  The worse thing we can do as men is to feel like a failure, or to get angry and stop trying to please them.  That is a major turn off to a woman.  Women want a man who is confident, yet willing to ask for help under the sheets.  Find out what she wants, and do not make it all about you.  Learn to give without expectation of anything but your mates pleasure in return. This will bring you closer to your spouse.  On that note, tell her what you like.  She most likely will want to please you as much as you want to please her.  I am amazed how many different ways and things you can do to keep it hot in the bedroom.  Keep those home fires hot, so your mates sexual desires do not lead them to a warmer place.  The great thing about sex is that you are sharing the most intimate part of yourself with another human being. 

 Mating is soul connecting.  It must be treated with love and respect.  Cherish it just for the one you love.  Do not use it as a weapon against your mate but as an integral part of a loving relationship. 

This post was previously featured on the Loveawake blog

Assume Value!

When people find out I work for dating site, one of the most common things I hear that online dating is not really the same how offline dating works. In many ways there is a huge difference between online dating and offline dating. But the basic principle remains the same: to meet new people and hopefully find that special someone. And I hope the following post will help those who don’t believe in online dating

There’s a tendency in this community that a lot of guys position themselves value wise beneath a girl they find attractive. They then approach the woman with that set of starting belief. Now you’re probably anticipating that I’m going to say this is wrong or doesn’t work.

The fact is that this mindset actually has worked and probably will work – but is it emotionally healthy for you, now that’s an entirely different issue. Most guys begin in this community learning some tactics and routines, they then go and use it on some girls in a bar, and they get immediate reactions (a laugh, a giggle or a smile).

For a chode this is like a freaking revelation. He then connects the success he has now achieved with the routines/tactics he’s been using, which just reinforces the belief that most of us started out with.

“Women are higher value, we must use tricks/routines/negs to lower her value and raise ours”.

This chode will then be completely blind of other ways or methods that can get the same result. He has now embarked on an unhealthy belief spiral. He will constantly be socially pinging girls “Is what I’m doing good enough” and every successes or failures he will connect them with the set of belief he has, making the belief stronger and harder to change down the line.

The opposite of this sort of belief is what I practice “Assume Value “.

Assume that you are of high value – “you are simply enough. “

You don’t need to do all sorts of routines and button pushing to get a positive responds from the girl. You don’t need her validation or her approval. You don’t need to wait for that IOI to further escalate the interaction. The Assume Value mindset is also interconnected with the others beliefs which I follow like for example

“ Assume Attraction “ - in layman’s term “it’s always on until otherwise proven!”

What this mindset of assuming value gives you, is to allow your mind become free & unplugged. You no longer will run into issues of “I run out of things to say”. You no longer will have to deal with the headaches of every single interaction. Because whatever you say is good enough. Doesn’t matter if it’s about you talking about your laundry or that you picked up your mom from work. You simply assume anything you say is cool and is of value. It pretty much comes down to self-trust.

Now, when you incorporate this mindset, you learn that some people will just not accept that. They simply won’t accept the reality that you are displaying and those people can be literally anyone from strangers to your closest friends. For example a turbo girl may not accept you’re reality and test you! In her head she would be like “No no no! You can’t do that, I’m a hot turbo girl you need to buy me a drink and get my attention by supplicating!” and all sorts of bullshit.

It’s up to you to show that your reality is strongest and how to deal with her testing the correct way. How to have a strong reality is a complete other subject that I hopefully can talk a bit about another time. But it hits the fundamental beliefs I talked about above and simply taking action from them.

Taking a quote of Alexander of RSD

“Actions give you experiences. Experiences alter your perception. Through perception changes you alter your inner game. Ideally, you alter your inner game to become better than it already was. Though if you are misguided, then your inner game could be altered negatively.”

Now this will take time, some longer than others depending on how deep they are plugged into the social matrix. But know that we all started somewhere, and with incorporating the right mindsets and beliefs and of course taking right action, it’s only a matter of time before they are truly ingrained to your identity.